Finally, you have found that ‘thing’ you have been looking for…yeah!!…being a nurse for you is so much more than a job, and just turning up for a shift!
Your heart starts to beat a little faster, you feel that warm excitement feeling spilling out of your body, and you say to yourself.
“I’ve got this…Yes, this is exactly for me”.
You’ve spent a LOT of time, not to mention money, investing in studies not only for your current role but also for your future, the one where you are doing what you truly love!
It’s about helping people, making a difference in many lives and not just a pay cheque.
This opportunity is PERFECT, and you know it’s going to be a rewarding one, you’re ready for it, but it will mean some changes not only at work, but also at home. It’s not just about money right?!
You can’t wait to catch up with your partner, family and the few people you trust at work to share your news.
The moment comes, you talk, you hear the excitement in your own voice…the passion for change…
But things haven’t gone to plan….you’re met with a pause…and ‘that’ look…you know the one…where the person doesn’t really agree with you and you can see the lack of belief in their eyes.
Why do they not see what you do?
It could be a start to a new direction in your career, or a complete change of career or even starting a small enterprise on the side.
You see the extra income, you see how it can come together, you see how much this will mean to your family…a bigger home, a newer car, or even better, an overseas holiday…
Feelings of self-doubt, of questioning your ability and whether you are making the right decision.
Do you have what it takes to be the exception?
Think of all the movies that you’ve watched…in most, there’s a common theme.
The underdog. That person who is pushed around, has had all the bad things happen, yet seems to come up with a solution to the problem, and pulls it off with resounding success.
Oceans 12, Erin Brockovich, Slumdog Millionaire, Bilbo Baggins in The Lord of The Rings and the list goes on. The little known or valued person who ends up being the exception to the rule.
The character who comes up with a super cool plan, comes up with the action plan and gets the prize.
Almost all of us dream of being that person, the one who may not want the fanfare or the fame, but who wants to be the exception and stand up for what you believe in….to be the exception rather than the rule.
With that said, this is where the negative opinion and doubt comes in. The stories of others who haven’t worked towards change, the ones who have been in the same role they have always been in since starting their working life give you doubt…can you really succeed?
The Proof IS In The Pudding
If you think you are the exception, or believe you have the potential to be, there are a couple of things to consider.
According to Bartlett’s Familiar Quotations, the phrase ‘The proof is in the pudding’ dates back to at least 1615, when Miguel de Cervantes published Don Quixote. In this comic novel, the phrase is stated as The proof of the pudding is the eating.
You cannot determine how good a dessert, or as the English call it, the pudding is, until you taste it. Preparation and appearance do not really count.
The end result or finished product, determines the level of success or failure. Meaning, what you do, rather than what you say counts.
Where To Start With This
Actions Speak Louder Than Words
It’s all well and good to talk about your idea, to sprout how amazing it is going to be, and what you’re going to do with all your money or time or energy, but if you do nothing to make it happen, how can people believe a word you say?
In work and life, the steps you take, the actions you complete are the reasons to SHOW you actually mean what you say.
To back yourself.
You back your idea and are prepared to do battle to make it work.
Show your partner, show your family and friends the work you do, the actions you take, the failures and success are worth it to get your idea off the ground.
Walking your talk has never been so important.
Do you really need to have another person’s opinion?
Ask yourself this…what are you really looking for when you ask for an opinion, does it really matter what that person believes to be true?
Does that person have experience, knowledge, have they walked the path you are taking?
If the answer is no, how in the hell can they provide you with an objective and valuable answer?
There are so many people who state an opinion as “fact”. Take a moment to consider this.
Are you looking for validation and faith from that person? If so, you have a problem.
When it comes to a new role, there is only one guarantee. You are the guarantee. It’s up to you to decide if you do the work or not, and whether something will work or not.
Quote – you are the guarantee
Steps To Make This Work
Connect The Dots Backwards
As Steve Jobs once said, “You can only connect the dots looking backwards.”
You won’t know what dots to join until you have joined them. You have a sea of dots to choose from, which are the right ones for your new venture?
The only way to find out is to work, take action, and only then will you see the dots connect.
Have A Concrete Plan
Map out the areas you know about your new role and ones you need to work on.
Look for people who have done this before you.
Take starting a business and wanting to use social media to get if off the ground as an example.
Having more likes and increasing your engagement is lovely, but it doesn’t make you money.
That is half the picture, building your venture online has multiple layers, and likes are not really a part of it.
Getting the right people to know you are there, who want to connect with you, so that you can have a conversation and if appropriate work together…that is the art of monetising being online.
You need a concrete plan for this, not just the odd post on Facebook.
It is very easy to get lost in this space, which means having a concrete plan to join the dots is a must.
What are the exact steps in your plan to take?
More Action Less Talking
Talk is cheap…act and then talk, people will take you a lot more seriously when you have actually achieved something, which is way better than nothing.
Ignore the naysayers and focus on what’s at hand. Take one day at a time and if needed, write down a checklist to tick off.
Back in 2012, July 8 to be exact, I decided I wanted to run the 2013 New York Half Marathon.
I quietly started training, as in 3-minute runs, 5 minute walks…I thought I was going to die!
Fast forward to March 2013, I ran that Marathon. I had gone from zero fitness to doing the Cliff Young shuffle…not pretty, no Lorna Jane, no running style…just a good slog around Manhattan and one of the best things I have ever done. (Apart from being Mum to my five boys).
It wasn’t until I got home, and all my friends, family and school parents came up to me and said….”you did it?… wow, that is amazing…you mean you actually Ran all the way?
I had never questioned myself whether I could do it or not, but obviously, there were many nay-sayers out there.
There is a common assumption that the louder you shout out your intentions, the more successful you will be. I sure have done this over the years.
Back in 2009, the New York University published a paper on this very topic. The findings were interesting. In summary, the research examined and found that when an individual publically announced their intentions, there was a decrease in the level of implementation.
Simply said, implementation over intention…act and then talk. Keep your ideas and thoughts to yourself, get them done and then talk about them.
Get the idea into a concrete plan, start implementing, joining the dots and see how “seeing is believing” springs into life.
Not only will you have achieved a start in this new venture of yours, you will have results, knowing 100% that YOU made it happen, you took the action and made your dream a reality.
Enjoy joining the dots, it is a stack of fun!